Hello lovely! I’m Cat, your love + relationship coach.

I specialise in coaching loved up couples through their big milestones. You know, getting married, having your first baby (or adding another one to the family), buying a house, changing career, moving somewhere wildly new, becoming empty nesters, retiring, or whatever feels like a big milestone to you.

Our milestones mark periods of massive change – the kind of change that would prompt our work managers to get us career coaching – but because we do relationship milestones with a partner, we’re just expected to muddle through.

In some ways this makes sense. I mean, we’ve picked our romantic partners because we work well together, right? Who better to navigate massive change with? And that’s true! But what’s also true is that times of massive change are also times of massive uncertainty, of stress, and of very different ideas around what to do, how to do it, and why it’s important.

On top of that, our partner is the person we wake up to, who we come home to at night, who’s family we spend time with over the weekend; they’re our biggest supporter and confidante. So, when these big milestones come along, we can struggle to have the conversations we need to with them for fear of what we might discover. Or, we can struggle even knowing what the right conversations are to have in the first place – it’s not like we get to learn Relationship 101 in school, and we often don’t have the best examples of functioning relationships in our personal histories.

This is where coaching comes in.

Regardless of the milestone at hand, coaching can help to raise awareness, improve communication, deepen understanding, develop confidence, make informed choices, and get a handle on the landscape around you and how you want to inhabit it.

It’s a tool that can help you to navigate the important feelings, questions, and decisions you face. How? I’ll ask you the right questions at the right moment, to allow you to untangle your thoughts together and work out what’s best for you. You set the agenda, you are the experts, I’m just here to tease out how you really think and how you really feel and how you want to change as a result. It sounds simple like that, right?

It can be simple, but it can also be hard. Coaching is often challenging. It invites us to look into the mirror and truly see ourselves. It asks us to confront the things that have been holding us back, often our own thoughts and beliefs. It offers us the opportunity to change – something that, as humans, we rebel against. This is why it’s so important for you to want it. You can only get so far when you’re not invested in the process. When you really want the change, there’s no stopping what we can do.

But why me? I adore understanding the dynamics between people that allow us to connect and thrive, and I’m passionate about the potential for healthy and fulfilling relationships to add joy and meaning to our lives. These things light me up and drive me to do the work that I do. Laughing, crying, swearing, shouting, whispering, and, most of all, THINKING is welcome in my sessions. If this sounds good to you, there are two ways you and your sweetheart can work with me. The first is my signature programme: Building Bliss, and the second is a flexible coaching package: PAYGO Couples Coaching. Find out more about each below.